THE PROJECT CALLED A MAN

THE PROJECT CALLED MAN. A most read for all ladies.

Men are the toughest project. Isn’t that why you are so angry? We expect love to cure unfaithfulness. And shouldn’t it? So because you expect, you sacrificed. For instance: Your name. You gave up your name so u could bear his. That,  we call marriage. Your time. You gave in your time so his could have value. Understanding. Your body. Your  body. He possessed it so he could be convinced. Marriage. Understanding. Submission. Nothing women won’t do to express love. They do the good, Sometimes the bad and other times the ugly. Their priority is their man. Their project is their man. What ‘The She can do for ‘The Him staggers heaven. It makes heaven stand still and mope. For her man she could do the unthinkable, unbelievable, unimaginable and unfathomable. Don’t underestimate a woman power when it comes to her man. Distance and distress she will endow. Pains and pressure she will tolerate. The ordinary and the extra she will dare. These and many more for love, woman won’t mind. And since you love you expect faithfulness from your lover. But how wrong we can because in real life true love doesn’t always attracted faithfulness from  the lover. And you know, unmet expectation is the root of frustration. You are not frustrated because you loved, you are because he was unfaithful. And more wars are fought on the ground of unfaithfulness than any other. Infidelity from a partner makes us feel foolish then mad and because we feel mad we just marr everything. This is the point men dread most. The war from woman. Women are different. They fight the way they love. So men dread. And because they feared being speechless in the  ‘Ladies Court’ they lie. They hide. They scheme. They swear Anything just to avoid the war. But isn’t there a solution to the malady? I think there is. Avoid the act and safe the axe. Though it isn’t as easy as it is for a lot of men as it might read. Oh mean why dare what u dread? For most ladies, infidelity from a lover is one big puzzle that still creates nightmare. They just can’t understand. They just won’t understand. Should they? Will u? It make our Eves(ladies) pause to wonder: what do ‘Adams’(men) really want?

v  Beauty or Intelligence?

v  Love or sex?

v  Character or charisma?

 And while women yet wonder they man just wander! Has it ever occurred to you that if tears cure unfaithfulness many a man would be angels today. If nagging stops it, imagine how many men will live as saints, if malice makes the best medicine imagine how many women would walk shoulder tall. The tears won’t. The nagging can’t. And the malice? No. These weapons don’t conquer the monster called unfaithfulness.

Some have argued in favor of polygamy. The one man one woman equation is mirage they buttress. Polygamy? Some cultures applaud it. Some religions celebrate it and others societies uphold it.

Different opinions. Divergent philosophies. And while we defend or oppose; the woman is broken. She is broken because she is jealous. Jealous because it’s natural. All our theologies or ideologies only appeal to her to the extent her lover isn’t duplicated. Period! Religions, cultures and societies have tried to suppress the emotions of jealousy in a woman. Hard they might try but, it can’t be killed; for jealousy is Gods deep gift to the woman. Her motto: “Only me or noon” And that is man’s greatest test. He echoes a different theme. For most men it should read “With u and others”. And that is the crux of fidelity or infidelity. Go the lady’s way or sick the guy’s way. Practice her motto or exhibit your ego. Make the right choice or create a chaos. This is the breaking or making point. Guys take my advice, take her motto seriously. It doesn’t make u lesser but better. The best of you comes alive when u understand the anatomy of a woman’s jealousy. As I draw the line I say to my fellow men slow-down and the women: know that your man is your living project; and some projects are tough to execute. A little more time the best will come out of HIM!

Ladies corner.

1 It’s easier to break a rock than a man. Men are tough projects. You need wisdom to overcome their hearts.

2 to be honest your rivals aren’t really your problem your man’s heart is.